2008 Woodie Awards
Making sense of rape fantasies
Kris DeRego
Issue date: 4/10/08 Section: Commentary
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Until recently, I vehemently disagreed with James Bond's former lover. Rape was an abhorrent phenomenon, I felt, with no place in civil society. After a close friend regaled me with lurid details about her most sordid fantasies, however, I was forced to reconsider my position.
According to my friend (whose own fantasies include being slapped during sex), women's rape fantasies fall within two categories: erotic and aversive. Erotic fantasies contain low levels of violence and typically involve a dominant male overpowering a female who expresses minimal resistance to being taken.
Aversive fantasies, on the other hand, parallel realistic rape more closely, with an assailant grabbing his victim and ripping off her clothing while she attempts to protect herself from the assault.
Though they may seem discordant with modern sexual sensibilities, rape fantasies are more common than you may believe. According to several studies conducted over the past decade, between 31 and 49 percent of women have fantasized about being raped.
College students, who've often been used as subjects in studies that involve self-reporting, experience rape fantasies at an even greater frequency, with between 36 and 57 percent of female students enjoying the kink.
Obviously, rape fantasies pose some difficult questions to our prudish, puritanical social norms. How, for example, could anyone find pleasure in an action that most of mankind considers reprehensible? How can explicit violence become a source of intimacy? For that matter, how can rape fantasies ever be successfully fulfilled? Wouldn't a realistic enactment be just a traumatic as the real thing?
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Deadmilkman
Deadmilkman
posted 4/13/08 @ 2:14 AM HST
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. (Continued…)
Dirt
Das
posted 4/13/08 @ 8:05 PM HST
so to those who say "how can you post that"
have you ever looked at the media? it's a business... articles that catch attention are the one's that get people to read, i'm not that bright, but that seems like pretty clear business sense. (Continued…)
altheaegon
altheaegon
posted 8/06/08 @ 5:12 PM HST
Listen up chump. Your syntax will be the rape of all of us [women] you pencil wielding moron. Until you have experienced what the government now defines as "forcibly" raped (as if, there is some other kind of definition of RAPE), you had better think twice about how you write about it. (Continued…)
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